Happy Camper
It wasn’t that long ago, or so it seems, that I was walking down the stairs at a conference in Washington, DC. On the landing I met two people and we struck up an engaging conversation. He was smart and insightful, she was very cute, and quite charming. He wasn’t my type, and I thought she was taken – so I moved on. Besides, I wasn’t in a place where I was “looking.“
Fast forward a few months and I’m in SW Michigan checking out a grad school. I run into this beautiful woman again, but since I thought she was unavailable, I hadn’t tried to remember her name. Imagine my embarrassment and chagrin, when she asked if I remembered her. I didn’t forget this unforgettable woman, I just didn’t remember her name – Jennifer.
Several months later, after I’d sold all my stuff and moved to Michigan, Jennifer and I became friends. It helped that she wasn’t available – and it helped that I was on a relationship fast. Taking time to get my head, my heart, and my spirit in order – while advancing my education. It wasn’t long before Jennifer became available. But fortunately for us, I was still abstaining from dating.
A year later, a mutual friend suggested that Jennifer and I would make a great couple. Besides, she offered, you’re already good friends. That was all the encouragement I needed. A week later, we had our first date. We shared a 2 fer one McDonald’s coupon during her short lunch break. We drove out to the shores of Lake Michigan and there on that sunny, Spring day in April, I shared with Jennifer that I was done with recreational dating. If we were going to date, I said, it would be with the understanding of “healthy” and intentional courtship.
And though this was a bit scary for both of us, we moved forward. Now today, we celebrate eight years of marriage!
I never really understood why people were so eager for me (or other singles) to get married. It isn’t always roses and romance. There is a cost to marriage. Surrender, compromise, humility, and disappointments are all part of the deal. Companionship, contentment, cooperation, and celebration are the rewards. I was willing to pay the price, for the growth of my own character. I am a better person having shared the last eight years with this saint of a woman.
I know why I stay in the game, sometimes I’m not sure why she keeps putting up with my crap. But as she shows patience and perseverance, I am more determined than ever to repay her love with even more love. Sometimes, when everything is quiet and I’m left with my thoughts, a burning appreciation and devotion wells up from my heart – I get teary thinking about the joy this woman brings into my life.
My goal, my drive, is to provide more than just a home and comfortable living. I want what is best for her. I want her to thrive and grow, to become the woman God created her to be. To do this, I have to let go of my own expectations, my own agenda, and my own selfish motives. Instead, I am learning to create shared expectations, a shared agenda, and shared goals.
The icing on the cake for all of this is our children. I never knew how cool it would be to be a Dad. I don’t think I ever really knew what love was, until my kids were born. I’m in the process of learning how to better express my love, and in healthier ways. I also know that my wife, my beautiful, loving partner – the mother of our kids – is the reason I’m living the dream!
Jennifer, though words are inadequate, I love you with a burning love, from inside my soul. Thank you for being the woman you are. Thank you for being here, now, with me. And thank you for being such a terrific Mom! You are incredible!!
I’m one happy camper!
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I love you, too, Gary! Thank you for your loving words and memories. I remember meeting you for the first time and thinking, “This guy is cool!” I’m thankful I have gotten to find out! Each year keeps getting better and better!!
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Great post Gary, sounds like you and Jennifer have a great thing going, love the way you met, almost like it was destiny eh? 🙂
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It’s funny, I taped a fortune cookie saying to my dash right before I met Jennifer: “Do not depart from the path set for you by destiny.” It’s been there for just over 10 years.
I do believe there was an intelligent design in our being together.
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